My bucket list
When I see a list of 100 activities, which my friend, wants to do in his life, I am overwhelmed, due to inadequacy in my thinking.
I have no such plans:
Cities to see, adventurous activities to do, before I die.
Let’s first learn to love people – spouse, siblings, parents, and in-laws.
And stop loving things and activities over people.
Yes, ‘the world is too much with us’, said William Wordsworth.
Let’s use things, but not love things.
Today, grown up grandchildren, prefer to see a movie over talking to the ‘lonely’ grandparents.
Today grown up children are so absorbed in their ambitions that little they see in their parents, who wait for their communication and attention.
A flaw in our behavior is preferential treatment to incoming generation, over outgoing generation.
Old-age homes have come up as its direct application.
An ethical Oriental bucket list
Let the traditional marriages with lifelong commitment make a comeback.
Let every married person maintain warm contacts with the spouse’s family, even after spouse’s death.
Let children maintain their spontaneous ‘childhood’ warmth towards each other, even after marriage.
It depends upon closeness between their spouses.
Odds are heavily pitted, against this wish.
The children are busy in their lives:
Growth of their children, and security in future for their family.
Warmth and affection between siblings are vanishing.
Men versus women
* Women are performing better than men in some respects.
Sisters continue their intimacy, in spite of their spouses having a formal interaction only.
Brothers more often than not, lose the closeness, and warmth of pre-marriage days.
Their intimacy depends upon closeness between their spouses.
A taste of real women power, all over the World!
* Why do ‘homely’ men give in!
Does it help them in maintaining harmony in home – peace and romance?
Are men more tolerant than women in this regard?
Do men exhibit more tolerance towards in-laws?
Sisters-in-law seldom click with each other.
Attitudes and king-size egos
It is interesting to observe families around us, soaked in unhappiness,
But refusing to change attitudes,
For the king-size egos, never give in,
And ‘divorces’ multiply
Or uncomfortable compromises by ‘surrendering’, pervade all over.
God bless us
You blessed humanity with a bigger brain.
It has its own disadvantages.
We are imperfect, unlike You.
Bless us with equal love towards man-made relations and God-made relations.
Let there be no ‘family’ institution for humanity,
Let’s live like animals, with animal-instincts.
A point to ponder
Why did Tolstoy advocate complete celibacy for humanity in his last days?